Apr 02 2008
Defending My Sanity
I’ve been really tired lately. Stress does that to you. I emailed my mom and told her how it’s going to be when she’s here for my wedding. She responded saying that she understands, but then came back with a blog post that tells me she really doesn’t get it. I mean, with a tiny wedding that is cutting out a lot of the traditional details, there really isn’t much to do. I know she’s eager to help, but honestly, if you were visiting a strange city, would you want to be given a list of errands and a map? Me either. FH and I are planning it so that there will be very little to do, and if there is anything that needs being done, those jobs will go to local friends. It just makes more sense that way, don’t you think?
Sis also tells me that mom has been complaining that I won’t be spending more time with out of town guests (aka her and my uncles). This wedding is not a week-long affair with fun events planned every night. The wedding will take place on one day. In the days before, I need to work, since I have one of those jobs that likes me to be there - at 7am. Doesn’t leave me much time for going out on the town. And FH and I would really like to take time for us, so we can chillax a bit before the wedding, just the two of us. If I spend the days before the wedding playing tour guide and planning a million pre-wedding events, then I will not be a blushing, beaming, glowing bride walking down the aisle. I will be a frazzled madwoman. I think FH prefers the first one.
Mom brought up this issue of a tie. She thinks I’m focused on her buying Dad a tie. It will be 105°F or so outside that day. I don’t think Dad will want to wear one, and that’s fine. But it’s not my mom’s job to buy him a tie. They’ve been divorced for over 30 years now. Let his wife pick out his clothes, or *gasp* let Dad do that himself. What a concept. And don’t even get me started on my mom calling me to update me on Gram’s health yesterday. My paternal grandmother - not her mother.
So I haven’t been around here much lately. I’ve been over at LJ so I can vent out loud a lot more, since LJ lets you control exactly who gets to see each post. Nifty feature. Here it’s only public, registered users (I don’t do that registering thing here), or no one can see it. On LJ I can pick and choose. So there.
Excuse me while I eat a little piece of sugar coma in a foil wrapper - aka the Cadbury Creme Egg.
Urgh, this is why I’m afraid to get married - I know my parents and the boyfriend’s parents will complain that we don’t do things properly or the way they expect. As for not spending enough time with the out of town guests, I’m inclined to say, ‘Screw ‘em!’ It’s your wedding, and people should know that wedding days are busy, rushed affairs. I only ever expect to get a few minutes of the bride’s time.
How good are creme eggs?
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Gotcha! I edited you here because I don’t want to advertise it for the whole interwebs to stalk you. Off to LJ…
Stress will indeed wear a person out. I bet I have slept (as in passed out the minute I quit moving) at least 75% of my free time away since January. Not fun.
Congrats on your wedding! I hope the stress levels out and you get to enjoy the wedding, your hubby, and the guests!
I’m the opposite - I’m tired all the time but not sleeping well at all. Now that I’m relaxing a bit more, I’m sleeping more.
And thanks! I’m hoping things will work out just fine. I just wish weddings didn’t have to be like this!
Stress puts a lot of wear and tear on me. Planning a wedding can be crazy. It will all be well worth it in the end though! Good luck!
Yeah, I’ve noticed the wear and tear myself. I’ve just had wedding overload after a mad dash 2 straight weeks of wedding and househunting, and nearly had a breakdown. I shut my phone off and tried to avoid all human contact for a weekend, and I’m feeling better now. Just a few small details to tend to before my mother lands in town!